Structured compatibility intelligence for shidduch review.
ShadchanAI helps move the process beyond surface information by creating structured profiles, reusable SAI Numbers, and interactive compatibility reports that support better questions, clearer conversations, and more informed guidance.
Created to move the process from reactive to proactive.
ShadchanAI was created as a proactive response to 25 years of reactive involvement in trying to help address the ongoing shidduch crisis and the growing divorce crisis. The goal is to bring better information earlier, before families, shadchanim, rabbanim, advisors, and singles are left trying to repair confusion that could have been clarified sooner.
Better questions create better clarity
ShadchanAI helps identify what should be discussed before important questions are left unasked.
One intake. Reusable insight.
The SAI Number gives completed profiles a consistent way to support future compatibility review.
A useful report should make the next conversation smarter.
The report is explored, questioned, and expanded when deeper understanding is needed.
WHAT SHADCHAN AI EVALUATES
From intake to insight, the report organizes what a resume cannot show. The guided intake is built to understand how a person thinks, communicates, bonds, handles pressure, builds a home, approaches responsibility, and prepares for marriage.
Report Snapshot
82%
Overall Compatibility
8.6
Confidence Score
SAI Pair Reviewed
No Shidduch Block Indicated
Good Match
A report combines 11+ analysis modalities, 38 relationship dimensions, scores, category summaries, strengths, challenges, shidduch block review, and practical guidance into one structured view.
Evaluation areas, grouped for clarity
Instead of presenting isolated facts, ShadchanAI organizes intake information into the areas that shape real married life.
1.
Home-Building Alignment
- Shabbos and kashrus standard: how each person keeps Shabbos, the kashrus level maintained at home, and comfort with eating outside the home.
- Community and hashkafa: the community each identifies with, openness to other communities, and the family tradition that shapes expectations.
- Observance direction and expectations: where observance is heading, expectations for a spouse, standards of tznius, and how rav guidance fits into decisions.
- Children and family size: hopes for family size, timing, and the vision that will shape the home over the long term.
- Chinuch and home atmosphere: priorities for children's education, the kind of atmosphere desired at home, and how screens and media are handled.
- Learning and earning plan: expectations around full-time learning, work, daily learning sedarim, and the balance between Torah and parnassa.
- Extended family and where you live: how close family is expected to be, willingness to relocate, and openness to life in Israel.
2.
Relational Operating System
- Conflict and repair: how disagreement is handled, how quickly repair happens, who tends to make the first move, and the family model each person learned.
- Closeness and security: baseline trust, comfort with emotional disclosure, expectations for physical affection, and how boundaries with family are set.
- Communication style: listening habits, how feelings are expressed under stress, and how clearly each person is able to share what matters.
- Criticism and tone: reactions to criticism, apology style, and whether humor helps or harms during tension.
- Affection and warmth: how care is expressed and received, the languages of affection that matter most, and warmth in everyday interaction.
- Decisions and partnership roles: how decisions are made together, expectations for household roles, and openness to hosting and shared responsibility.
- Emotional steadiness together: how steady each person is under pressure, sensitivity to criticism, and the general optimism brought to the relationship.
3.
Life Structure Fit
- Money and stability: money style, income stability, financial goals, and how debt is viewed.
- Daily rhythm and order: preference for order versus flexibility, sleep and schedule rhythms, and how last-minute changes are handled.
- Social energy: how much social contact each person needs, expectations for community involvement, and appetite for travel.
- Health and habits: smoking, alcohol, exercise, and openness around mental health and wellbeing.
- Education and work: education level, yeshiva or seminary background, and how intellectual and professional paths align.
- Friendships and time with friends: how much independent time with friends is expected, how friends are brought into the home, and how spouse and friend circles overlap.
- Shared interests: common interests, shared languages, and the activities that can give a couple natural points of connection.
4.
Attraction and Practical Fit
- Age fit: actual age gap, each person's stated age range, and whether the difference sits comfortably within what both accept.
- Stated physical preferences: preferences around build, coloring, and the physical traits each person has said matter to them.
- Presentation and grooming: grooming habits, fitness importance, and how each person presents themselves day to day.
- Weight each places on attraction: how important physical attraction is to each person relative to other compatibility factors.
5.
Personality and Pattern Fit
- Order, planning and follow-through: detail orientation, planning horizon, and the habit of completing what was started.
- Openness, ideas and growth: interest in new ideas, appetite for growth, and comfort with reflection and novelty.
- Warmth and generosity: how readily each person extends warmth, gives the benefit of the doubt, and puts others' needs first.
- Social energy and people appetite: how gatherings affect energy, preference for large or small circles, and comfort with strangers.
- Emotional regulation under pressure: steadiness, recovery from upset, optimism, and how stress is carried and expressed.
- How each of you takes in information: attention style, learning preference, and whether focus is more on present experience or future possibility.
- How each of you weighs a decision: thinking versus feeling, fairness versus harmony, and the pace at which decisions are made.
- Planning, closure and flexibility: preference for structure versus spontaneity, need for closure, and response to last-minute change.
- Overall temperament pairing: the combined picture of personality patterns and how naturally the two temperaments complement each other.
- Closeness and connection style: comfort with closeness, dependence on others, and how trust is built and repaired.
- Reassurance and space under stress: how much reassurance is needed, worry about distance, and the alone-time each person requires.
- How care is given and received: the languages of care that feel natural, and how well each person's way of giving care matches what the other receives.
- Adaptability and flexibility: how readily each person adapts to change, and how flexible they are across daily life and bigger transitions.
Detailed, but not overwhelming
After the category summary, the report provides subcategory-level analysis, practical explanations, strengths, concern areas, clarification points, and a summary judgment about whether the proposed shidduch appears structurally viable, emotionally containable, and practically livable.
Key discussion points
The report surfaces concrete topics to discuss - strengths, concerns, and areas that need clarification so the next conversation can be more productive.
Clarify what matters
The report can surface questions around home-building expectations, communication under pressure, family boundaries, finances, responsibility, and daily structure.
Understand repair
Compatibility is also about how two people handle tension, misunderstanding, apology, pressure, and repair.
Protect sensitivity
Sensitive areas are handled carefully. Preference-related information is summarized broadly and focused on practical workability.
Built for the people involved in the process
ShadchanAI is designed to support thoughtful review by the people already involved in a proposed shidduch.
Singles
Gain clearer self-understanding and provide better information to those helping with the process.
Parents
Understand important compatibility areas with more structure, sensitivity, and clarity.
Shadchanim
Review proposed shidduchim with deeper visibility into alignment, concerns, and discussion points.
Rabbanim and Advisors
Use the report as a structured decision-support tool when guidance requires more than surface information.
Get married.
Stay happily married.
The system prioritizes long-term marriage viability over surface impressions by reviewing home-building alignment, relational stability, life structure, communication rhythm, emotional steadiness, family expectations, practical fit, and supportive personality layers.
This matters because two people may share similar values, backgrounds, and goals, yet still differ in emotional pacing, decision-making style, conflict repair, family involvement, daily structure, and long-term expectations. That is the standard.